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The Last Hurrah

In Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, Groom, independence, marriage, relationship health, relationships, sexuality, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on June 15, 2010 at 2:43 am

It’s the last call, the final mile, and the end of an era.  It’s the time you spend saying goodbye to  singlehood: It’s the bachelor/bachelorette party.

It’s a night that strikes fear into the hearts of many a young lover – where fiancés disappear in the night to sow wild oats; where irresistible strippers spread their legs for the almighty dollar; where “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” is more than just a motto, it’s a credo; and where the ability to remember the night’s events is worn either as a medal of honor or as a sign of disgrace.
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Marriage: Keeping it in the Family

In Affairs, couples, feminist bride, History, Illegitimate heir, love child, marriage, nuptials, pregnancy, psychology, relationship health, relationships, Religion, sexuality, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on June 9, 2010 at 6:01 am

February 23, 1903, the day after John Fox and Jessie Tuttle's wedding day

After consummating their marriage, the parents of one of my oldest friends discovered in family charts that they are in fact 23rd cousins, twice removed. They remain happily married to this day. While twenty-three degrees of separation seems like a big enough number to continue sleeping soundly in a joint bed, the cultural acceptance of relationships with only a few degrees of separation is just too close for comfort for most. Despite cultural taboos and legal barriers, the heart of the matter lies in the fact that affectionately entwined bloodlines have played a massive role in shaping history and culture throughout human history.

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Garter Go or Garter Stay?

In boyfriend, feminism, feminist bride, Groom, History, marriage, nuptials, relationships, sexuality, The Feminist Bride, wedding ceremony on April 22, 2010 at 5:52 am

Portrait of American exploitation film director, writer, producer, editor, and actor Russ Meyer (1922 - 2004) with his new wife actress Edy Williams as they pose by a tree during their wedding reception, June 27, 1970. (Photo by Frank Edwards/Getty Images)

Ever watched a groom disappear under the layers of lace and chiffon of a bride’s dress? He’s searching for the promise of an exciting wedding night, while guests wonder what’s really going on as his head is between the bride’s legs. With a drum roll he emerges triumphant, garter in his teeth, smiling. On such an innocent and pure occasion, the garter symbolizes the unspoken privilege of marriage – sex, sex and more sex. It’s a brazen implication in front of family, coworkers and maybe a religious official. But as guests grin and gasp in amusement or feigned horror, one has to wonder, is the garter really appropriate for a wedding?

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Forget The Bouquet, Single Ladies Need to Catch a Break

In Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, Gay Marriage, girlfriend, Groom, independence, marriage, nuptials, psychology, relationships, The Feminist Bride, Uncategorized, wedding ceremony on April 18, 2010 at 3:35 am

Teresa Tam Photography, http://www.TeresaTamStudio.com

As a frequent single at weddings, catching the bouquet symbolized more than just being next up to the altar. It represented being on a team perceived as less favorable – the singles team. Identifying oneself as such to a wedding crowd is not always fun. It’s like announcing that your batting average in relationships is so low that you’ve resorted to catching a bunch of flowers for good luck in love. It’s no wonder the bouquet toss has fallen out of favor.

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The View of “For Better or For Worse”

In Affairs, couples, Divorce, feminism, feminist bride, Groom, History, homosexuality, independence, marriage, Money, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on April 17, 2010 at 5:48 am
Tiger Woods announces he will take an indefinite break from golf

Image: Tiger Woods walks with his wife Elin Nordegren during the President Cup in San Francisco on October 9, 2009. Woods announced on December 11, 2009 that he will take an indefinite break from professional golf after rumors of alleged affairs with several women have surfaced.

From JFK to John Edwards to Eliot Spitzer, Prince Charles to Picasso, from Kobe to Tiger and countless other celebrities, these men promised ‘for better or for worse’ and yet each had an extramarital affair or two. While women too commit their own sex scandals, it’s the male affairs that take center stage the most. But women do share the spotlight in affairs – mostly as the victimized wife. Placed before their peers, the wife must decide whether or not to uphold the concept of ‘for better or for worse’ after their husbands have broken their own shared vows first. Divorce is not an easy decision.

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