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Bridal Shower Blues

In bride, Bridesmaids, Celebration, cohabitation, couples, feminism, feminist bride, feminist weddings, girlfriend, Groom, History, identity, independence, jack and jill party, marriage, men, Money, nuptials, registry, relationship health, relationships, stereotypes, stigma, The Feminist Bride, tradition, women on May 11, 2011 at 6:00 am

Of all the traditions associated with weddings, bridal showers might be one of the most obsolete traditions remaining. While there’s hope with the new trend of “Jack and Jill” showers (both sexes), it remains narcissistically sexist, greedy, outdated, and well, cheesy. Read the rest of this entry »

Platonic Politics: Inviting an Ex to Your Wedding

In autonomy, boyfriend, bride, Bridesmaids, Celebration, Celebrities, couples, Divorce, feminism, feminist bride, feminist weddings, girlfriend, Groom, Health, independence, marriage, men, nuptials, relationship health, relationships, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, wedding ceremony, women on March 26, 2011 at 12:18 am

People are in an uproar because Prince William and Kate Middleton, wedding trendsetters of the 21st century, are (gasp!) inviting their exes to their wedding. People just can’t seem to jump on board with this one, which tells me there are one too many unrepaired, broken hearts out there. If these wedding icons can say to their amorous past, “Let bygones, be bygones,” it’s a little bit of egg on the face to those who can’t. Read the rest of this entry »

Goodbye Hymen, Hello Hyphen!

In autonomy, boyfriend, bride, Civil rights, couples, Divorce, Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment, feminism, feminist bride, feminist weddings, girlfriend, Groom, Health, identity, independence, marriage, men, nuptials, patronymics, psychology, relationship health, relationships, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, women on March 16, 2011 at 12:00 pm

Each generation has their heated issue when it comes to marriage. Once upon a time, it was imperative to maintain the virtue and innocence of a young woman (i.e.: the presence of her hymen) on her wedding night. In present times, the average age of sexually active women is 17. Therefore, contrary to the repressive sexual times of our predecessors, kids today are literally putting the sex in the sex-ed. Don’t know what a hymen is Susie? Statistically, it looks like you lost it well before you made it to that health class lesson. Where the social issue of the hymen eventually broke, there is a new age one that aims to unite – that is last names. Say hello to our little friend, the hyphen. Read the rest of this entry »

Our Obsession With Love and Labeling

In boyfriend, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, Health, identity, independence, marriage, men, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, sexuality, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, women on February 8, 2011 at 6:42 pm

It’s already several dates in.  You’re way into this new person and you’re pretty sure he or she is into you. The kissing is great, the butterflies have yet to go away, you swapped embarrassing stories that both of you swore you’d never tell anyone, there’s been talk of future dates and trips and…neither of you are seeing anyone else. It’s time to have “the talk.”

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Move Over Men, Las Vegas Is a Woman’s Playground!

In bachelor party, bachelorette party, Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, independence, men, sexuality, stereotypes, stigma, The Feminist Bride, women on January 20, 2011 at 7:18 pm

The old school image of Vegas as a place of smooth talking

men, gangsters, celebrities, beautifulwomen and a chance to make or break a fortune are still relatively true, but few of us will ever experience this side of ‘Sin City’. The Hollywood image from movies like, The Hangover, Vegas Vacation, 21, Casino, Ocean’s 12 (+/-), Leaving Las Vegas and Fear and Loathing cast a glittering and sordid image.  Like a bee to honey, people are drawn to the sparkly lights and the promise of adventure and winnings.  We visit to have our Hollywood moment, to feel like rock stars at the clubs and to be giants at the table. But for both men and women on bachelor and bachelorette parties where does the myth end, and the truth begin for each sex? Read the rest of this entry »

(Un)Tangled Disney Princess Story Lines

In bride, couples, Disney, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, History, identity, independence, marriage, Media, nuptials, Pop Culture, The Feminist Bride on November 23, 2010 at 11:48 pm

Disney’s princess plots are more predictable than a woman’s period.

Scene from the movie "Tangled," Disney.com

Girl is oppressed (by magic, evil villain, or station in life), girl decides to challenge adversity, girl meets vagabond boy en route, cue adorable magical or animal sidekick, boy and girl conquer evil villain, boy and girl marry and the live happily ever after. The End.

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There’s no “Me” in Bride

In bride, feminine mystique, feminism, feminist bride, Health, identity, independence, marriage, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, The Feminist Bride, wedding ceremony on September 28, 2010 at 7:39 pm

Some people use their astrological signs to describe their personality – preordained by time and chance

Art by Katrina Majkut

according to the alignment of the stars.  Some attribute their character based on their parents or environment; access to money or lack thereof.  There are many internal and external factors that help create you, and it’s nice to think that identity, to some extent, is something we can choose. After a short lifetime of making those critical choices or being products of our genetics or childhood, when it’s time to ring the wedding bells do we still have that personal choice to choose “who am I – as a bride?” Read the rest of this entry »

A Wedding Gift of Tolerance for Chelsea Clinton and Marc Mezvinsky

In Clinton, Converting religions, couples, feminism, feminist bride, Groom, independence, marriage, nuptials, relationships, Religion, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, wedding ceremony on July 29, 2010 at 7:30 pm

Chelsea Clinton is expected to marry Marc Mezvinsky on July 31 at Astor Courts in Rhinebeck, N.Y.; and in addition to

Chelsea Clinton and Marc Mezvinsky

wondering when, where and who will be in attendance, people want to know if Chelsea, the daughter of Hilary Clinton, a Christian Methodist (and staunch feminist) and Bill Clinton, a Southern Baptist, will convert to her fiancé’s religion of conservative Judaism. Regardless of her decision, the question is unfair and one-sided because no one is posing the same question to Mezvinsky – will he convert for her?

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The Last Hurrah

In Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, Groom, independence, marriage, relationship health, relationships, sexuality, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on June 15, 2010 at 2:43 am

It’s the last call, the final mile, and the end of an era.  It’s the time you spend saying goodbye to  singlehood: It’s the bachelor/bachelorette party.

It’s a night that strikes fear into the hearts of many a young lover – where fiancés disappear in the night to sow wild oats; where irresistible strippers spread their legs for the almighty dollar; where “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” is more than just a motto, it’s a credo; and where the ability to remember the night’s events is worn either as a medal of honor or as a sign of disgrace.
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Forget The Bouquet, Single Ladies Need to Catch a Break

In Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, Gay Marriage, girlfriend, Groom, independence, marriage, nuptials, psychology, relationships, The Feminist Bride, Uncategorized, wedding ceremony on April 18, 2010 at 3:35 am

Teresa Tam Photography, http://www.TeresaTamStudio.com

As a frequent single at weddings, catching the bouquet symbolized more than just being next up to the altar. It represented being on a team perceived as less favorable – the singles team. Identifying oneself as such to a wedding crowd is not always fun. It’s like announcing that your batting average in relationships is so low that you’ve resorted to catching a bunch of flowers for good luck in love. It’s no wonder the bouquet toss has fallen out of favor.

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