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Goodbye Hymen, Hello Hyphen!

In autonomy, boyfriend, bride, Civil rights, couples, Divorce, Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment, feminism, feminist bride, feminist weddings, girlfriend, Groom, Health, identity, independence, marriage, men, nuptials, patronymics, psychology, relationship health, relationships, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, women on March 16, 2011 at 12:00 pm

Each generation has their heated issue when it comes to marriage. Once upon a time, it was imperative to maintain the virtue and innocence of a young woman (i.e.: the presence of her hymen) on her wedding night. In present times, the average age of sexually active women is 17. Therefore, contrary to the repressive sexual times of our predecessors, kids today are literally putting the sex in the sex-ed. Don’t know what a hymen is Susie? Statistically, it looks like you lost it well before you made it to that health class lesson. Where the social issue of the hymen eventually broke, there is a new age one that aims to unite – that is last names. Say hello to our little friend, the hyphen. Read the rest of this entry »

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Our Obsession With Love and Labeling

In boyfriend, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, Health, identity, independence, marriage, men, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, sexuality, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, women on February 8, 2011 at 6:42 pm

It’s already several dates in.  You’re way into this new person and you’re pretty sure he or she is into you. The kissing is great, the butterflies have yet to go away, you swapped embarrassing stories that both of you swore you’d never tell anyone, there’s been talk of future dates and trips and…neither of you are seeing anyone else. It’s time to have “the talk.”

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There’s no “Me” in Bride

In bride, feminine mystique, feminism, feminist bride, Health, identity, independence, marriage, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, The Feminist Bride, wedding ceremony on September 28, 2010 at 7:39 pm

Some people use their astrological signs to describe their personality – preordained by time and chance

Art by Katrina Majkut

according to the alignment of the stars.  Some attribute their character based on their parents or environment; access to money or lack thereof.  There are many internal and external factors that help create you, and it’s nice to think that identity, to some extent, is something we can choose. After a short lifetime of making those critical choices or being products of our genetics or childhood, when it’s time to ring the wedding bells do we still have that personal choice to choose “who am I – as a bride?” Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage: Keeping it in the Family

In Affairs, couples, feminist bride, History, Illegitimate heir, love child, marriage, nuptials, pregnancy, psychology, relationship health, relationships, Religion, sexuality, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on June 9, 2010 at 6:01 am

February 23, 1903, the day after John Fox and Jessie Tuttle's wedding day

After consummating their marriage, the parents of one of my oldest friends discovered in family charts that they are in fact 23rd cousins, twice removed. They remain happily married to this day. While twenty-three degrees of separation seems like a big enough number to continue sleeping soundly in a joint bed, the cultural acceptance of relationships with only a few degrees of separation is just too close for comfort for most. Despite cultural taboos and legal barriers, the heart of the matter lies in the fact that affectionately entwined bloodlines have played a massive role in shaping history and culture throughout human history.

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Forget The Bouquet, Single Ladies Need to Catch a Break

In Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, Gay Marriage, girlfriend, Groom, independence, marriage, nuptials, psychology, relationships, The Feminist Bride, Uncategorized, wedding ceremony on April 18, 2010 at 3:35 am

Teresa Tam Photography, http://www.TeresaTamStudio.com

As a frequent single at weddings, catching the bouquet symbolized more than just being next up to the altar. It represented being on a team perceived as less favorable – the singles team. Identifying oneself as such to a wedding crowd is not always fun. It’s like announcing that your batting average in relationships is so low that you’ve resorted to catching a bunch of flowers for good luck in love. It’s no wonder the bouquet toss has fallen out of favor.

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The View of “For Better or For Worse”

In Affairs, couples, Divorce, feminism, feminist bride, Groom, History, homosexuality, independence, marriage, Money, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on April 17, 2010 at 5:48 am
Tiger Woods announces he will take an indefinite break from golf

Image: Tiger Woods walks with his wife Elin Nordegren during the President Cup in San Francisco on October 9, 2009. Woods announced on December 11, 2009 that he will take an indefinite break from professional golf after rumors of alleged affairs with several women have surfaced.

From JFK to John Edwards to Eliot Spitzer, Prince Charles to Picasso, from Kobe to Tiger and countless other celebrities, these men promised ‘for better or for worse’ and yet each had an extramarital affair or two. While women too commit their own sex scandals, it’s the male affairs that take center stage the most. But women do share the spotlight in affairs – mostly as the victimized wife. Placed before their peers, the wife must decide whether or not to uphold the concept of ‘for better or for worse’ after their husbands have broken their own shared vows first. Divorce is not an easy decision.

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