Uncovering The Hidden Culture in Weddings And Relationships

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Our Obsession With Love and Labeling

In boyfriend, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, Health, identity, independence, marriage, men, nuptials, psychology, relationship health, relationships, sexuality, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance, women on February 8, 2011 at 6:42 pm

It’s already several dates in.  You’re way into this new person and you’re pretty sure he or she is into you. The kissing is great, the butterflies have yet to go away, you swapped embarrassing stories that both of you swore you’d never tell anyone, there’s been talk of future dates and trips and…neither of you are seeing anyone else. It’s time to have “the talk.”

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Move Over Men, Las Vegas Is a Woman’s Playground!

In bachelor party, bachelorette party, Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, independence, men, sexuality, stereotypes, stigma, The Feminist Bride, women on January 20, 2011 at 7:18 pm

The old school image of Vegas as a place of smooth talking

men, gangsters, celebrities, beautifulwomen and a chance to make or break a fortune are still relatively true, but few of us will ever experience this side of ‘Sin City’. The Hollywood image from movies like, The Hangover, Vegas Vacation, 21, Casino, Ocean’s 12 (+/-), Leaving Las Vegas and Fear and Loathing cast a glittering and sordid image.  Like a bee to honey, people are drawn to the sparkly lights and the promise of adventure and winnings.  We visit to have our Hollywood moment, to feel like rock stars at the clubs and to be giants at the table. But for both men and women on bachelor and bachelorette parties where does the myth end, and the truth begin for each sex? Read the rest of this entry »

The Last Hurrah

In Bridesmaids, couples, feminism, feminist bride, girlfriend, Groom, independence, marriage, relationship health, relationships, sexuality, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on June 15, 2010 at 2:43 am

It’s the last call, the final mile, and the end of an era.  It’s the time you spend saying goodbye to  singlehood: It’s the bachelor/bachelorette party.

It’s a night that strikes fear into the hearts of many a young lover – where fiancés disappear in the night to sow wild oats; where irresistible strippers spread their legs for the almighty dollar; where “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” is more than just a motto, it’s a credo; and where the ability to remember the night’s events is worn either as a medal of honor or as a sign of disgrace.
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Marriage: Keeping it in the Family

In Affairs, couples, feminist bride, History, Illegitimate heir, love child, marriage, nuptials, pregnancy, psychology, relationship health, relationships, Religion, sexuality, stigma, The Feminist Bride, Tolerance on June 9, 2010 at 6:01 am

February 23, 1903, the day after John Fox and Jessie Tuttle's wedding day

After consummating their marriage, the parents of one of my oldest friends discovered in family charts that they are in fact 23rd cousins, twice removed. They remain happily married to this day. While twenty-three degrees of separation seems like a big enough number to continue sleeping soundly in a joint bed, the cultural acceptance of relationships with only a few degrees of separation is just too close for comfort for most. Despite cultural taboos and legal barriers, the heart of the matter lies in the fact that affectionately entwined bloodlines have played a massive role in shaping history and culture throughout human history.

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Garter Go or Garter Stay?

In boyfriend, feminism, feminist bride, Groom, History, marriage, nuptials, relationships, sexuality, The Feminist Bride, wedding ceremony on April 22, 2010 at 5:52 am

Portrait of American exploitation film director, writer, producer, editor, and actor Russ Meyer (1922 - 2004) with his new wife actress Edy Williams as they pose by a tree during their wedding reception, June 27, 1970. (Photo by Frank Edwards/Getty Images)

Ever watched a groom disappear under the layers of lace and chiffon of a bride’s dress? He’s searching for the promise of an exciting wedding night, while guests wonder what’s really going on as his head is between the bride’s legs. With a drum roll he emerges triumphant, garter in his teeth, smiling. On such an innocent and pure occasion, the garter symbolizes the unspoken privilege of marriage – sex, sex and more sex. It’s a brazen implication in front of family, coworkers and maybe a religious official. But as guests grin and gasp in amusement or feigned horror, one has to wonder, is the garter really appropriate for a wedding?

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